Being a mom is one of the best things a woman can be blessed with; it’s momentuous! Along with this high-flying experience comes the sleepless nights, exhaustion and overwhelming dramas.
I see you nodding in there!
To make it worse, most moms feel ashamed of getting help because of the supposed impression from other people of being “less of a mom” or lazy or she’s-not-cut-for-motherhood thing. I think it’s otherwise. Part of being a good mom (to say the least) is being able to take care of yourself; this will include your health & sanity!
Simply put, how can you take care of someone else when you can’t even take care of yourself ? When you’re sick, unbalanced, unhappy and crazy?! I had to learn this the hard way.
We are human beings who get burned out and emotions play a big part of how we perceive things (the world, other people and our life in general)– whether we admit the latter or not.
We all need that cup of coffee that we’re obsessed with, that good book to read, that beautiful and vibrant paint on the nails, those good times with girlfriends to be able to see the good stuff this world has to offer. Although, ideally, we should always see the good no matter what our current circumstances are.
But you get what I mean, right?
People around me are astonished (I’m also aware that some are not impressed at all. LOL) as to why I’m a mom to a young tot and yet I am able to go on business meetings, do my passions, have a cup of coffee with friends. Well, I love my kid so much that I know I need to keep my sanity to be able to function well and be there for her.
I have been blessed with wonderful parents and family who are always willing to help me out with taking care of Saehee. I assume that being a Filipino and especially living in the Philippines, I am fortunate to belong to a society where families are closely-knitted.
We are large. Loud. Happy. Supportive.
It is apparent to me that in other countries, people pay other people per hour to take care of their kids while they’re at work or out for a segment of refreshment from life’s hustle and bustle. If you are fortunate like myself (doesn’t need to pay anyone for a few hours of their time so that I can do things that I have to do)grab the opportunity! You don’t know how many women all over the world who would “die” to be in our shoes!
Help can come from various sources and is not only limited to family members. If you have the extra fund to hire a good and trust-worthy nanny, I support it.
You help your family get a balanced life and you also help the nanny to finance herself and/or her family.
It’s a win-win situation.
You can also ask help from your close & trusted friends; maybe you need to run an errand or be at a meeting of some sort, give it a shot! You can leave your child at their house or your friend goes to your house while you’re out and about. It depends on your agreement, you can always negotiate.
I learned that in the US of A, this set up has become a popular one— why? It becomes a play date for the kids. There might be other ways of help that are available to you, go ahead and utilize it.
However, don’t be self-absorbed! Never forget to be always thankful and be willing to reciprocate the goodness of those people who help you.
I make sure that I also help out in any way that I can–like helping my cousins do their homework, watch out for their kids when they need to do something and I also give tokens (if the finances permits, of course).
Don’t worry about what other people would think or say about it– chances are those people who think negatively of it are actually not parents! They have no idea what a handful it can be when you’re a parent.
Remember that it is your life that you’re living for yourself and you know what works out for you and your family.
Life is meant to be enjoyed at all times!
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